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I feel
like wearing red photo by
Pat Munsterman
how do i feel?
"If I'm ok with
me, I have no need to make you wrong." ~
author unknown
FEELING (or "I") STATEMENTS ...
INSTEAD OF
"YOU" STATEMENTS
(hint -
watch out for the word "feel" because it can
be misleading; and, it should not be
followed by "you" unless referring to touch)
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DO SAY |
INSTEAD OF |
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I
feel belittled when I ask you for
money |
You
always control when we can or can't spend
money. |
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I am scared when you get angry
and holler. And, I think it is
abusive. |
I feel
you
are abusive because
you
rant and rave like a maniac and make
everyone around you uncomfortable. |
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I feel uncomfortable when you
act this way because I think you are
behaving as if you are jealous. |
You
are so jealous all the time and it makes me
mad. |
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I got frustrated when I
couldn't go to lunch with my friends. |
You
get to do whatever you want whenever you
want so why can't I just have lunch with my
friends? |
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I felt betrayed when you told
me you were going to dinner with friends and
instead you went gambling. |
You
are such a liar. |
(s)he
said: "get it?"
(s)he
said: "got it!"
they
said: "good."
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