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self talk &
other ways to chill
Anger is a
natural emotion, and can be very healthy. It is a
signal that there is dis-ease with what you perceive to be
happening. The important issue is to recognize that
anger is an escalation of another, softer, feeling (fear,
hurt, sadness, disappointment, embarrassment, etc.).
It helps to
recognize the issues underlying anger. Our self-talk
can be a helpful tool to diffuse anger and understand our
true feelings so that we can manage our self effectively and
productively. When you start to feel angry, and you
notice it escalating, bring these "self-talk" points to
mind.
"It's nice to
have other people's love and approval, but even without it,
I can still accept and like myself."
"People are
going to act the way THEY want to, not the way I want them
to."
"It's okay to
make mistakes."
"It is
impossible to control other people and situations; the ONLY
thing I can control is myself and how I express my
feelings and how I respond to my experiences."
"If another
person wants to be enraged, that is their decision; I don't
need to respond to their anger and I don't need to feel threatened."
"I do not need
to prove myself in this situation."
"My anger is a
signal that I need to take time to relax and talk to
myself."
"It is okay to
be uncertain or insecure sometimes; I don't need to be in
control of everything and everybody."
"I shall
survive when others criticize me; nothing says I have to be
perfect."
"I feel angry,
that must mean that I am hurt, scared or some other
primary feeling."
When anger
rises, take a time out to think about what your feelings are
telling you. Relax and consider the root of your
emotion. Then, manage it from there, productively.
You may not get what you want, yet, you will get what you
need.
other ways
to chill
Cool downs and
time outs offer a chance to relax and rid tension.
Open your mind
to new things. Follow the link to
INNER PEACE
and start a self-help chatterbot program - you will want to
keep running with it!
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furthering peace and harmony in your world, in your way.
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If you are patient in one moment of anger,
you will escape a hundred days of sorrow. ~
Chinese Proverb
Peace Is Evety Step:
The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life
Thich Nhat Hanh
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MonkeyMind or to invoke Forgiveness
-- find your way to inner peace.
This above all; to thine own self be true. ~
William Shakespeare
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