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Every working adult has known one - a boss
who loves making subordinates squirm, whose
moods radiate through the office, sending
workers scurrying for cover, whose very
voice causes stomach muscles to clench and
pulses to quicken.
It is not long before dissatisfaction
spreads, rivalries simmer, sycophants
flourish. Normally self-confident
professionals can dissolve into quivering
bundles of neuroses.
"It got to where I was twitching, literally,
on the way into work," said Carrie Clark,
52, a former teacher and school
administrator in Sacramento, Calif., who
said her boss of several years ago baited
and insulted her for 10 months before she
left the job. "I had to take care of my
health."
Researchers have long been interested in the
bullies of the playground, exploring what
drives them and what effects they have on
their victims. Only recently have
investigators turned their attention to the
bullies of the workplace.
Around the country, psychologists who study
the dynamics of groups and organizations are
discovering why cruel bosses thrive, how
employees end up covering for managers they
despise and under what conditions workers
are most likely to confront and expose a
bullying boss.
Next week, researchers and policy makers
from many nations will convene in Bergen,
Norway, to discuss the issue.
"What we're finding," said Dr. Calvin
Morrill of the University of California at
Irvine, who studies corporate culture, "is
that some of the behaviors that we think
most protect us are what in fact allow the
behavior to continue. Workers become
desensitized, tacitly complicit and don't
always act rationally."
Bullying bosses, studies find, differ in
significant ways from the Blutos of
childhood. In the schoolyard, particularly
among elementary school boys, bullies tend
to pick on smaller or weaker children, often
to assert control in an uncertain social
environment in which they feel vulnerable.
But adult bullies in positions of power are
already dominant, and they are just as
likely to pick on a strong subordinate as a
weak one, said Dr. Gary Namie, director of
the Workplace Bullying and Trauma Institute,
an advocacy group based in Bellingham, Wash.
Women, Dr. Namie said, are at least as
likely as men to be the aggressors, and they
are more likely to be targets.
In leadership positions that require the
exercise of sheer violent will - on the
football field or the battlefield - this
approach can be successful: Consider Vince
Lombardi and George Patton. But in an office
or on a factory floor, different rules
apply, and bullying usually has more to do
with the boss's desires than with the
employees' needs.
A manager might use bullying to swat down a
threatening subordinate, for example, said
Dr. Harvey A. Hornstein, a retired professor
from Teachers College at Columbia University
and the author of "Brutal Bosses and Their
Prey." Or a manager might be looking for a
scapegoat to carry the department, or the
supervisor's, frustrations.
But most often, Dr. Hornstein found,
managers bullied subordinates for the sheer
pleasure of exercising power.
"It was a kind of low-grade sadism, that was
the most common reason," he said. "They'd
start on one person and then move on to
someone else."
The mystifying thing about this pattern is
that it does not appear to undercut
productivity. Workers may loathe a bullying
boss and hate going to work each morning,
but they still perform. Researchers find
little relationship between people's
attitudes toward their jobs and their
productivity, as measured by the output and
even the quality of their work. Even in the
most hostile work environment, conscientious
people keep doing the work they are paid
for.
At the same time, some employees withhold
the unpaid extras that help an organization,
like being courteous to customers, helping
co-workers with problems or speaking well of
the company. Yet this falloff in helpfulness
and, indirectly, in performance is smaller
than might be expected, because fear
motivates different people differently, said
Dr. Bennett Tepper, an organizational
psychologist at the business school of the
University of North Carolina, Charlotte.
In April, he reported the results from a
study of 173 randomly chosen employees in a
wide range of work. He found that in
situations where bosses were abusive, some
employees did little or nothing extra, while
others did a lot, partly covering for less
helpful peers.
"This is not what we expected," Dr. Tepper
said. "And we speculate that one reason
people keep doing extra in these abusive
situations is to advance themselves at the
expense of others. It makes them look good
and the others look that much worse."
So tyrants spread misery, and from the
outside it looks as if they are doing a fine
job. It does not help matters, psychologists
say, that people who enjoy abusing power
frequently also revere it and are quick to
offer that reverence to the
even-more-powerful. Bullying bosses are
often experts at "managing up."
Subordinates know viscerally the high cost
of going around a boss, even if it is simply
to file a complaint with the human resources
department. You are trouble. You are a
whiner. You have called out the manager
behind his back.
One reason management researchers do not
know how effective it is to take on a cruel
boss directly is because so few employees do
it.
For many people, run-ins with a supervisor
stirs up old conflicts with parents,
siblings or other larger-than-life figures
from childhood. Dr. Mark Levey, a
psychotherapist in Chicago who consults with
corporations, said that nasty bosses often
elicited from subordinates defensive habits
that they first developed as children, like
reflexive submission and explosive rage.
"Once these defensive positions lock in,''
Dr. Levey said, "it's like people are
transported to a different reality and can
no longer see what's actually happening to
them and cannot adapt."
Emelise Aleandri, an actress and a producer
in her 50's who lives in New York, said she
was forced out of a producing position by a
bullying boss, who replaced her with an
underling.
"Some people were afraid to do anything,''
Ms. Aleandri said. "But others didn't mind
what was happening at all, because they
wanted my job."
Ambition, experts say, is the bully's most
insidious deputy. Dr. Leigh Thompson, an
organizational psychologist at Northwestern
University, and Cameron P. Anderson, of the
New York University business school, are
studying the effects of varying management
styles on the behavior of small groups.
In one simulation, business students gather
in teams of three, acting out the parts of
company managers meeting to divvy up
resources. The students are randomly
assigned to one of three roles, the top
manager of a large company, a middle manager
and a lower-ranking manager.
After the negotiations begin, the
researchers find, the heavyweights quickly
dominate and, with regular meetings, they
also transform the behavior of the No. 2
managers.
"If the person in charge is high energy,
aggressive, mean, the classic bully type,''
Dr. Thompson said, "then over time, that's
the way the No. 2 person begins to act."
She added that this holds true no matter how
low-key and compassionate the No. 2 person
looks on personality tests outside the
simulation. Working to please and impress a
more powerful figure, the second-tier
managers are temporarily transformed into
carbon copies of the alpha dogs, and in the
simulation, they tend to corner the money
and cut out the lowest-level players.
It works the other way, as well. A top
manager with a gentler nature softens the
edges of more aggressive midlevel managers,
Dr. Thompson said. The third player is
entirely at the mercy of this dynamic.
In another study, Dr. Michelle Duffy, a
psychologist in the University of Kentucky
business school, is following 177 hospital
workers. At the beginning of the study, the
employees answered detailed questions about
their work and relationships with managers.
They also took a test of moral
disengagement, a measure of people's
sensitivity to others, for example, their
views on the appropriateness of jokes,
put-downs and coldness toward colleagues.
Six months later, the workers took the same
test again. Those who worked for bosses they
found intimidating had become less
sensitive, according to a preliminary
reading of the responses. Those who worked
for managers whom they perceived as
supportive or fair, Dr. Duffy said, scored
the same or better.
"It looks like if there's a strong leader in
the group, then that person's behavior is
contagious," she said. And if that leader is
nasty, "this moral disengagement spreads
like a germ."
Psychologists who study obedience say
subordinate status itself causes people to
defer to a supervisor's judgment, especially
in well-defined hierarchies. It's the boss's
job to make decisions, after all, and
co-workers may think there is some
legitimate hidden reason for the boss's
behavior.
Selfishly, too, workers who witness a boss
humiliating a colleague are relieved that
the sword has fallen elsewhere and are
secretly pleased that they look more
competent by comparison. In earlier work
that involved interviews with 500 employees
in Europe and the United States, Dr. Duffy
found that workers were delighted to receive
praise from a boss, but even more delighted
when the praise was accompanied by news that
another colleague is struggling.
This occupational schadenfreude is evident
when employees observe a co-worker being
bullied. After watching in silence, they
then begin to resolve their guilt.
"They do this by wondering whether maybe the
person deserved the treatment, that he or
she has been annoying, or lazy, they did
something to earn it," Dr. Duffy said.
The brutal behavior goes unchallenged, and
the target feels a sudden chill of isolation
that is all too real. By doing nothing, even
people who abhor the bullying become
complicit in the behavior and find
themselves supplying reasons to justify it.
"The people in my office eventually started
blaming me," said Sherry Hamby, 42, of
Tulsa, Okla., an advocate of family mental
health who said she was fired after repeated
verbal abuse from a boss. "This was a man
who insulted me, who insulted my family, who
would lay into me while everyone else in the
office just sat there and let it happen."
The most common form of resistance to a
cruel manager remains the old-fashioned
grousing session. Sharing the misery over
lunch or a drink can makes everyone feel a
little better and signal the first step in
jointly responding to the abuse.
Sociologists who study dissent within large
organizations like factories and hospitals
find that informal kvetching sessions may
evolve into effective resistance when
workers are united, well connected with
others in the organization and trust the
company's higher-ups to hear their case.
More often, though, grousing simply feeds on
itself, sometimes devolving into elaborate
self-contained gatherings in which the
central activity is bad-mouthing and
mimicking the boss, said Dr. Morrill of the
University of California.
He and Dr. Corinne Bendersky, an associate
professor at the University of California,
Los Angeles, are studying 150 M.B.A.'s in
human resources departments to determine
which kinds of employees are most likely to
file complaints against abusive bosses and
under which circumstances.
"We hypothesize, based on a preliminary read
of our data, that employees in tight-knit
informal groups may ironically be less
likely to think about confronting their
bosses," Dr. Morrill wrote in an e-mail
message. "Instead, they may retreat to their
informal groups to let off steam."
It is those who are not part of a tight
group, who feel truly desperate and in
danger of losing their jobs, who appear most
likely to speak up, he said. Most others
learn to perform an elaborate dance, trying
to preserve their status while being careful
not to forfeit their sense of decency, all
the while looking for an escape hatch. One
of the best strategies to manage a bully,
Dr. Hornstein of Columbia has found in his
research, is to watch for patterns in the
tyrant's behavior. Maybe he is bad on
Mondays, maybe a little better on Fridays.
Maybe she is kinder before lunch than after.
If the Mets lost the day before, it is not a
good day to ask for anything. If some types
of assignments spook the person more than
others, avoid them, if possible.
When the nostrils quiver and the lip
tightens, Dr. Hornstein said, all is not
lost. Ignore the insulting tone of a boss's
attack, he said, and respond only to the
substance of the complaint. If it is a
deadline problem, address that. For an
attack on a particular skill, discuss ways
to improve.
"Stick with the substance, not the
process,'' he said, "and often it won't
escalate."
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Medical
News Today
28 Aug
2004
As companies weigh costs of doing
business, the easy figures to
analyze and compare are the
traditional black and white ones:
salaries, overhead, cost of goods,
etc. Yet, what are the nebulous
costs that result from absenteeism,
lack of employee focus, increased
usage of insurance as a result of
medical conditions, and even issues
related to sabotage instigated by
unhappy employees, simply due to an
emotionally unhealthy work
environment?
What is an emotionally hazardous
work environment?
For this definition, it is a
workplace lead by a manager who
believes in demonstrating power and
control over employees, dominates
others through intimidation, conveys
no compassion or understanding for
the individual needs and issues of
employees, and who may frequently
take credit for the work of his or
her subordinates. In other words - a
workplace lead by a narcissistic
manager.
Narcissistic people frequently
demonstrate "God Complex,"
behaviors: They think that others in
the world believe exactly what they
believe. They see themselves as
omnipotent, untouchable, and feel
that rules don't apply to them. They
are frequently arrogant and
conceited and have a sense of
entitlement about them.
Yet the worst part of their behavior
is that they do not see others as
equal human beings - employees may
as well be robots or machines as
humans, for these narcissistic
leaders do not comprehend that
others have feelings, needs, and
thoughts … thus, the reason they are
incapable of empathy or compassion
in their dealings with "underlings".
A vision of Scrooge comes to mind,
constantly harping at Bob Cratchett
to work longer, harder, and for
less, and pouting like a child or
having a temper tantrum when Bob
asked to have Christmas Day off.
Despite his (or her) apparent lack
of emotion when it comes to others,
when the tables are turned it is
quite another matter. When the
narcissistic boss gets his (or her)
feelings hurt, perceives he has been
slighted in any way, or is
threatened that an employee's
abilities might be better than his
own, he will overreact with a rage
that leaves terror in his wake.
Everyone knows when the boss is
having a temper tantrum and all do
whatever possible to stay out of the
path of the hurricane. Unfortunately
for some, they will always be stuck
in the eye of the storm and will
suffer from the emotional abuse that
ensues.
In these days of extreme competition
in business, it is quite common for
corporate leaders to hire managers
with vastly competitive
personalities, who will work
themselves, and their teams, like
crazy to make it to the top. And yet
we have seen in recent years, how
those same go-getters are sometimes
oblivious of who they walk over on
the way, until it's too late.
Take Enron for example. Top leaders
of the once powerful corporation
became so obsessed with their power,
control, and omnipotence, they were
blindsided to the devastating end
result they were creating. In their
"Godlike" vision, how could anything
possibly go wrong?
Not all narcissistic bosses are as
obvious as the infamous Mr. Scrooge.
The more insidious, "stealth" type
narcissists can still create an
emotional hell for those around
them. Name calling, talking down to
employees, sexual harassment,
dishing out the "silent treatment"
to those who have slighted or mis-stepped
around the boss, establishing
multiple and/or unrealistic rules,
prohibiting personal objects in the
workplace (photos of family, etc.),
and dishing out unrealistic job
expectations are just some examples
of the subtle brainwashing/
controlling techniques that
gradually but consistently erode a
normal workplace into one that is
downright cancerous. And just as
with cancer in the body that can
spread its malignancy throughout,
thus an entire corporation can
become victim to this "disease."
In addition to narcissistic
managers, narcissistic employees can
make their coworkers equally crazy.
While these people may not have the
title to go with their grandiose
fantasies of power and importance,
they seem to act the role anyway.
Those in the crossfire can still
suffer the same effects as if
working for a boss of the same
behaviors. Bullying, employing the
"silent treatment," not carrying
their share of the workload, filing
false accusations, persistent
teasing, name-calling, threatening,
and attempting to control others in
a variety of ways, these power
mongers can still leave the victims
in their path, exhausted, drained,
and looking for work elsewhere.
So how do these abusive monsters
gain access to a position within a
corporation to begin with if they're
so terrible?
One of the greatest abilities of
narcissists are their great acting
ability. They win the Academy Award
for Best Actor or Actress, and can
worm their way into any variety of
positions. They know just how to be
the perfect employee, manager, or
partner for as long as it takes to
become well entrenched in the system
… then once they have a foothold,
their "real" personality eventually
surfaces. Rather like the famous Dr.
Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Yet, by then
it's usually too late for human
resources to notice. The
probationary period is up. And to
terminate the employee now becomes a
tricky legal walk.
Worse yet is the narcissistic boss
who continues to look like the ideal
employee to those he reports to, yet
who unleashes his terror on his
underlings. When his employees go to
complain to upper management, they
are not believed, since the middle
manager has convinced upper
management of his excellent,
role-model behavior and talents.
So what is the hidden cost of
employing narcissistic individuals
in your work place? Is it high
turnover? High absenteeism?
Employees on Prozac? Or just the
fact that people hate coming to work
and thus give you a halfway job?
In the grand scheme of things,
working in an emotionally hazardous
environment can be compared to
living in a war zone: the
instability of the situation that
can change without notice, the
constant strain of living under high
tension, the ongoing worry of being
"under the gun," the desire to stay
out of the line of fire, for fear of
being attacked. This is indeed how
many employees feel working for
narcissistic managers.
If you were living in a real war
zone, what symptoms might you see?
Depression, anxiety, chronic
fatigue, anger, inability to
concentrate, gastro-intestinal
symptoms, blood pressure changes,
headache, backache, changes in
appetite, agitation, hysteria, Post
Traumatic Stress symptoms, and so
on.
So what is the real cost? If we
could put it in dollars and cents
would we be more careful who we hire
to lead our teams of valuable
employees, as well as members of the
team?
Instead of a huge percentage of our
populace being drugged with
antidepressants as a means to cover
up the root of the problem, let's
start asking pertinent questions
about what's going on in their lives
- not only at home, but in the work
environment as well.
Mary Jo Fay, RN, MSN is a columnist,
speaker, and author of "When Your
Perfect Partner Goes Perfectly Wrong
- Loving or Leaving the Narcissist
in Your Life." She is founder of the
Narcissism Survivor Network (www.helpfromsurvivors.com)
and can be reached in the US at
303-841-7691. She writes and speaks
extensively about helping victims of
Narcissism Victim Syndrome.
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